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Is it nice to be nice?

Is it nice to be nice?

25th August, 2022

I wanted to share a question that's been on my mind.

We've been raised to believe that "being nice is good." Parents tell us to be kind to family, friends, and elders. When we're older and act normally based on our attitudes and beliefs, we can interact with people on three levels:

Level 1: Nice

Level 2: Neutral

Level 3: Nasty

A wise man once told me, "Not all people deserve to be nice to, and you need to be neutral or nasty when dealing with them," but I believe (and maybe I'm wrong) that I must treat everyone the same, regardless of what they deserve. My image and beliefs are what I value most.

I will mention some conclusions of the advantages of being extreme.

Advantages of being nice:

  • You get respect and love from the people.
  • You have stress-free conversations.
  • Fewer problems.

Advantages of being nasty:

  • You get what you want.
  • You don’t need to care about anything.
  • You don’t waste time.

Although being neutral may be the best option, it needs to be done with a bit of emotional intelligence and a lot of practice.

Now, I will pass the question to you all. If you feel you need to master controlling your emotions, feel free to check out our recommended courses.


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About the Author
Karim Salem, PMP®, PMI-ACP®

Client Relations Lead

Karim Salem is a Client Relations Lead with Meirc Training & Consulting, based in Riyadh. He holds a Bachelor of Science in mechanical power engineering from Ain Shams University. Karim's application of classroom learning to real-world projects, where he has often served as a sole or principal leader, has consistently yielded innovative and successful outcomes.
In 2009, the British Council recognized Karim as one of the top 120 Arab youths for his impactful contributions as a GlobalChangeMaker® in community and country development initiatives. Notably, Karim made history as the first Egyptian to assume the presidency of a Rotaract® Club in the UAE.
Karim is PMP® certified. He continued his pursuit of excellence and expanded his skill set with a PMI Agile Certified Practitioner (PMI-ACP) certification. Moreover, he is advancing his knowledge and expertise by pursuing an MBA in Entrepreneurship from the EU Business School in Switzerland, Universidad Católica San Antonio de Murcia (UCAM) in Spain, and London Metropolitan University (London Met).
With a comprehensive engineering, project management, business development, and community leadership background, Karim is poised to continue making significant contributions to his field and beyond. As he navigates his role as Client Relations Lead, Karim's dedication to driving innovation, fostering relationships, and achieving results remains unwavering.

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