“I am a happy person,” she said. “I like everything about life. That’s why I do what I do”. Gabriella is the concierge lady I met in a beautiful hotel/resort in the city of Interlaken in Switzerland. I stayed there for a couple of days with my dearest friend. She was our “go-to” person every time we needed any information during our stay there. The interesting thing about her is that the more we went to her with our questions, the happier and more excited she was to help us. Every advice she gave us was spot on, which made us trust her more and more. She spoiled us into seeking her guidance on almost everything, even if we knew the answer, we checked with her just to make sure. Deep down, I think we checked with her just to enjoy her demeanor. I observed her behavior with other customers. It was exactly the same! She does not fail to notice details about her clients; their clothes, their moods or their body language. She compliments on all that or helps them be in good mood. My friend asked her for a hug, and she jumped from behind her desk and sprang to hold him like a mother holding her long awaited child who just returned from a long trip.
One cannot help but look at this woman with admiration. I had to ask myself: was she born this happy? Or did she choose to be this happy?
Happy people are naturally motivated, and as a result more productive. Everyone I ever spoke to about happiness agreed with this statement. Where does happiness come from though? A lot of us were taught by caregivers and society that it comes from achieving our goals. If you think about it, this statement is in direct opposition to the one at the beginning of the paragraph. Think about the many times you worked so hard for something only to feel a sense of lack and emptiness right after acquiring it?! Happiness, therefore, cannot be gained outside ourselves. It is not dependent on external circumstances or people. It is a choice that each and every one of us should make every day. I choose to be happy! I choose to be happy in spite of whether I am in the place I want or not. I choose to be happy if I have the relationship I desire or not. I choose to be happy if I like my job or not. I choose to be happy if I own the things I want or not.
The next question to ask would be then, how can I choose to be happy and actually feel happy? Particularly that choosing to be happy when things are not going my way is surely not easy. To some, it might be downright impossible. There is definitely a difference between being happy and feeling happy. The latter usually occurs when something happens the way we wish for it to happen. I saved enough money, and I was able to buy the car of my dreams; I feel happy! The nature of that feeling is transient and usually short-lived. Pretty soon, the car will become old and riding it will become ordinary. Being happy on the other hand is a state of mind, an attitude, a decision. Achieving that stature is not easily attained. It takes work! The good news though it is doable, and the steps that lead to it are beautiful and each has a lasting rewarding feeling of its own.
Below, I share with you the steps I learned to being happy*:
Practicing these steps will reprogram your psyche to shift focus from the negative to the positive. You gain the habit of focusing on the positive, and what a beautiful habit to gain! So what is the end result of all that work? You will become your own version of happy Gabriella, and happiness becomes your natural state of mind.
Stay happy!
*The first three steps are based on Eckhart Tolle’s book “A New Earth”.
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Mr. Ibrahim Al Yafi is a partner with Meirc Training & Consulting. He holds a bachelor of science degree in engineering management from the University of Missouri Rolla, USA and a master of business administration with emphasis on strategic management and international marketing from Southern Illinois University, USA. Ibrahim is a senior certified professional by the Society of Human Resources Management (SHRM-SCP). In addition, he is an associate certified coach (ACC) by the International Coach Federation (ICF).
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